Does An Ex Ruin Your Life Or Open Up New Doors?

Only you know for sure, but it does take some time for you to figure this one out. In the days and months following a bad break up, it seems as if your ex is doing everything they can to ruin your life. And you are extra sensitive to all the little things that can push your buttons. After all, who knows you better than your ex? They swore an everlasting love to you, and suddenly they are your worst enemy. Nothing really hurts more than a trust betrayed. But you know deep down in your heart that you can get through this. The doors to start a new life will swing wide open.

You really have no choice than to start anew.

The time the two of you spent together will now have to be filled with activities of your choosing. Half-heartedly you will look for "something to fill the time"...to take your mind off of the pain. But these activities are the start of your new life. You have the freedom to do anything you now want to do. There will be no more asking for permission, no judgments or having to explain to anyone what you want to do or where you want to go. You can afford to take risks, find your niche in life and follow your dreams. There will be no more "That's stupid", "I don't understand why you would want to do that" or the ever popular "who's going to take care of the house?"

The biggest reason why couples fight is over money. But the biggest reason couples divorce is over one or the other partner losing their identity.

Having the freedom to do the things you want in life will be what matters most at the end of your life. Too many people say "I wish I had done (fill in the blank), but now it's too late." Couples that support and encourage each other to find activities, together and apart, will be the ones that stay together.

Your new post break up activities will be the creation of your new life.

In your attempts to find peace, you are unwittingly creating the new you. A wiser you. A more fulfilled you. A freer you! No one can ruin your life but you. Giving someone else that power is not "freedom." You are in control even if it doesn't seem like it sometimes. Whether or not you realize it, your soul is healing itself every moment. Your new life has already begun.

By: The Relationship Artist

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Making A Friendship That Lasts Forever

Making a friendship that lasts forever might seem a bit over the top but, if you look closely to some friendships, you will discover that theirs is a friendship that lasts forever. You can have friends so close to you that they become part of your family. There are ways in which you can transform your relationships to make them this way. It is never an easy task and, you have to begin with yourself. If you are a selfish person filled with negativity and malice, chances are that you will never make good friendships; at least not those that will last forever. You will realize that there is a pattern when it comes to friendships in your life; and it is up to you to put an end to this cycle. You must become the friend you want to have. In other words, good people will be attracted to you because of your good friendship traits. You cannot get rid of this negativity if you are not willing to change. You must want change for you to get it. It starts by admitting that you have not been a very good person. With this you are ready to begin a process in which you can have good friends who really care about you.

To have friends is not enough however; to have good friends is what you should be looking for if you want friendship that lasts forever. Look at the places you are hanging out at. Are you in an environment that will breed friendship? This is a question that you have to ask yourself sincerely if you really want something real. Many religious people will look for friends in churches but, this is not a guarantee that you will meet the friends you want. You have to go a step further and question what kind of people they are. If you are in a particular age group, it will be better if you considered people who are near your age. This is because you will have more in common. Sometimes when we are going about our business, friendly people come along and we are able to establish contact with them. At all times, be open to having friends and, you will see the difference. When you have a lot in common, you will find yourself chatting away and this is the beginning of building a friendship that lasts forever. You have to be honest and sincere when talking to potential friends, remember, you want something real. Friends will stick closer that a brother can only when there is mutual affection and love.

A friendship that lasts forever must be based on trust and love. You also need to spend enough time if you really want to know each other. There are no miracles or magic and you can make a relationship work. It is about not being petty and being people focused on great things that will happen in your lives. To have a friendship that lasts will require you to celebrate with your friends when they are celebrating and, you will also need to cry with them when they are hurting and, you will develop a strong bond which will be unbreakable.

By: Francis K Githinji

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Adopting Friendship Art In Your Life

Friendship art is something you should take very seriously. You have to learn the art of friendship and more so how to be a good friend. Good friends are hard to find and you can become that jewel that all friend seekers are going to be looking for. Friendship art does not have to be taught in school however, you need some few guides that will enable you meet the right people who you can hang out with. There are several things that you need to know about the art of friendship. First, you have to be honest. Honesty will have to start with yourself. You know your flaws and you also know what your strengths are. Capitalize on your good attributes then seek to improve some of the flaws that you might have. There is nothing wrong in admitting that you have weaknesses. In fact, most people never master the art, because they choose to continue with their flaws. You cannot fully eliminate flaws but, you can make a good effort to make things right. An example of weakness that you can have is to talk behind the back of your friends with lies. Gossip and back biting can really become a chronic problem to you if you do not work on it. They are a sure killer for all relationships. You need to look into ways in which you can keep information to yourself especially when it has been rumored by others.

Friendship art is best learnt in action. There is nothing complicated about acknowledging the fact that you need friendships that are based on trust and mutual affection. For this reason, you will seek to have love in your heart to love your friends. Friendship art cannot work without love. There are some who do not even like their friends. Instead of just wasting time and being together for convenience, it is better you end a relationship where there is no love or even affection. Love cannot survive without respect; you will need friends who care enough to respect you for who you are. If you do not deserve respect, chances are that you will not get it. You must therefore know that to have people respect you, you must earn it. You earn it by your behavior and, the kind of personality you have. If you have been looking out for your friends in a sincere way, you will be respected. Another aspect of art of friendship is confidence. Do you have confidence in your friends? In a good friendship relationship, you should have confidence in friends, which allows you to pave way for trust.

Friendship art needs to be developed over some time and, when you really have all the tips, you will definitely be on your way to making the most out of what you have learnt. Go online and look for other tips as well as hear from people and experts. Friendship will need all the input that you can find. Many people do not go that extra mile to make their friendships last. Little do they know that; it is the power of friendship that keeps the world going round! If we did not have friendships between countries, we could be at war. Let us concentrate on making friends and with this art, we will not have to go to war even in our personal lives.

By: Francis K Githinji

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